Punishment cannot change bad behavior
Punishment is not effective in changing children, why? Because by punishing, you only prevent the child from doing something destructive, but you don’t teach him what to do and how to do it! Of course, it is not the case that punishment is useless. By punishing, you can prevent a destructive behavior in your child, but after a few hours or days, that destructive behavior returns and you have no choice but to increase the severity of your punishment so that you can prevent that behavior this time. This damn cycle continues.
Pay attention here, please: the habit of punishment is a common phenomenon, I mean, if you can prevent a behavior for two days with punishment, the next time, with that punishment, you can only prevent that behavior for two hours. . Because as the severity of your punishment increases, the intensity of “resistance to change” in that child also increases. It’s not like you punish and the child will come to his senses, no, it can get to a point where immediately after you punish him, that behavior will be more severe. This is why they say that punishment may not improve the child’s behavior, but it can definitely make the parent’s behavior worse!
Punishment can do another damage to children, how? Children should masterfully learn to attract their parents’ attention through punishment. Pay attention here, please: “When you hit your brother, wherever I am in the house, my attention is drawn to your behavior, so next time if you want to draw my attention, try to hit your brother. In this case, I will immediately find my head and come to you, okay? Oh, let me just say this and go: Dear parents, when you punish your child, you are actually teaching him to be tough in the face of life’s challenges. You are teaching him to scream, yell, hit and be angry, so if your child reacts violently when he fails, don’t take it too far!
